My answers to the 2 questions

Recently I asked 2 questions in a blog post. Here are my answers.

 

1. If she loved his skills, why did she not hire him again?

The truth is she did NOT love his skills.

But she was afraid to tell him because she knows men have fragile egos and can't take a rejection easily. Especially a man she was just naked with and who knows her address.

The risk* is even greater for women living alone.

So she sent him off with compliments. She praised his skills and performance, told him she will hire him again, paid his fees and said a sweet good bye.

She had given him a test and he failed. She does this all the time. Calls guys over, tests them, pays their fees and says goodbye.

 

Btw, when a guy finally passes her tests, she won't let him go. She will hire him every day if he is available. If he is busy, she will wait patiently for him to be available (even though there are other guys willing to come over for free). She will pay him his fees, plus gifts. She will do whatever it takes to keep him. A good gigolo is hard to find.

 

So what did this guy do wrong?

I have no idea because I did not see him perform and I can't get feedback from the woman. I asked him, but he was clueless. So I can only guess.

It could be one of many reasons.

  • Maybe he was too much in awe of her. Maybe he looked at her like she was a memsaab and he was her servant.
    Women hate that look from a man they want to get intimate with.
     
  • Maybe he had poor personal hygiene. Bad breath, body odour, nose hair, dirty fingernails, yellow teeth…
     
  • Maybe he looked nervous and felt overwhelmed in her huge bungalow.
    Btw, if you ever feel out of place in a luxurious house or in a 5-star hotel room, you have to pretend as if you live in an even nicer house. It's all in the body language. At first you are pretending, but after servicing a few clients this is the natural life for you, to spend your time in luxurious places.
     
  • Maybe he had too much of the free wine and got drunk! 
     
  • Maybe, after the chatting, when it was time to make the move, he was afraid, and kept hesitating, waiting for her permission and finally she was forced to make the move and get physical with him.
    Women hate it when a man won't make the move.
     
  • Maybe he had weak body language which turned her off.
     
  • She was a couple years older than him, so maybe he treated her like he treats elders.
    Women want their lover to behave bold and confident, even if he is younger.
     
  • Maybe he was not skilled at lovemaking.
     

 

Maybe this, maybe that…I don't know.

Whatever the reason, if he had projected masculine energy and given her multiple orgasms, all his other mistakes would have been forgiven. Sab kuch maaf. 

Here are some more reasons why clients usually reject gigolos.

 

But this guy does deserve credit. He got invited over to the house of a wealthy client and got paid. Very few guys can do that. 

 

On to the second question.

 

2. Why did she call him for a phone chat if she had no intention to hire him?

After the meeting, he called her several times but she did not answer.

Men usually feel rejected when this happens. Cool guys take rejections sportingly and move on, but loser-guys start planning revenge or blackmail.

Experienced women know this weakness of men. After seeing his missed calls she was concerned for her safety. She called him to check if he is ok or angry. During the conversation she found he was ok. She probably calmed him down some more by saying she liked him but her husband is now in town so she cannot hire him for a while. After the phone call she threw away the simcard forever.

 

Btw, if she had found he was angry or threatening, she would have called the cops who would pick him up from his home, give him a warning to stay away from her. She usually has a tie-up with the cops. Depending on the level of his threat to the woman, they would either trash him, imprison him or let him off with a warning to not go anywhere close to the woman again. And he gets a police record. 

 

 

* India is becoming a safer place for women, thanks to tough new laws (after the Nirbhaya incident). But still, women continue to be extra careful and don't like to take a risk.